Woman, Be Wise And Build Your Home (Part 2)

Through wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches." Prov24:3-4

The home is a priority to God and the role of the woman in the home is of immense importance. Any woman who desires to follow God's pattern for a successful home must turn to the divinely inspired word of God which is her anchor against the manipulations of the enemy and worldly influences.

In continuing with the wisdom keys for building the home we shall consider the following points:

• Recognizing God as the Master Builder and submitting to Him through His Word.
  

"Except the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain that build it." - Ps 127:1. The marriage is a divine institution from God and it is His will that our homes be successful. Therefore, He has provided us instruction and guidance which if followed would inevitably bring us success and happiness. Trust God for the best in your home and stay with His word, it answers to every situation. Make it your standard, weigh every action and counsel with the word. Declare God's promises over your family till it becomes your reality.

•   Work on yourself. Build on your character
  

You may be  self-centered, emotionally stingy, judgmental, highly critical, and obnoxious and get away with it as a single but when you become married its not just about you and your feelings any longer as whatever you do impacts on both your partner and the future of your union. Sometimes these character traits stem from an inner feeling of insecurity and a low self-esteem so you need to commit to self improvement. Learn to like and accept yourself the way you are and keep doing the things that would help you love yourself more. The following tips will also help you become better:

• Consciously commit yourself to personal growth

• Identify your negative characters and work on them. Some of the negative traits I didn't like about myself in the past were anger, harshness and stubbornness, and these impacted my marriage negatively, today I can't say I am perfect because there's still a lot of work to be done but I'm happy with whom I have become. Its a continuous process, you can never overcome all the negative traits in one sweep, but you can achieve a lot when you take it one step at a time. Look for scriptures that deal with your negative traits and confess them over and over again, IT WORKS.

• Discover purpose. Purpose brings fulfillment as it takes you into a journey of self discovery.

• Be flexible, be open to change and be open to accepting the differences in other people

• Learn something new

• Decide to become a better wife, a better mother, a better sister, a better friend, a better neighbour and a better colleague

• Develop confidence

•   Submitting to your husband
  

I touched on this subject under the point, 'Submitting to the Holy Spirit', we shall consider another dimension to submission under this point.

The bible says submitting to your husband means trusting God 1Pet 3:4-5. Sometimes we women have the fear that our husbands will stand in the way of our fulfilling God's purpose for our lives, but the secret to enjoying your husbands complete support and encouragement in pursuing your own vision is through submission. In submitting to him God sees your total trust in Him, He also sees your humility and exalts you according to the scripture. So if you need God to promote you and what you're doing, begin to submit to your husband in sincere humility and you will enjoy heaven's advertisement. If you sense your husband isn't in full support of your vision, don't be forceful about it, don't allow the devil lead you into sinning against God because you want to fulfill His call upon your life. The vision is for an appointed time, so if you're not getting his backing now, then it means its not yet time for the vision to speak. Give it time, love your husband more, pray more and occasionally remind him of God's leading upon your spirit, and at the appointed time, every heart will submit to the will of God.

• Maintaining a lively spirit
  

Be happy (cheerful) all the time even when you don't have any reason to be as the mood of the mother influences every other mood in the house. When a woman is stable the family will be stable. Surround your home with love and warmth. Let people come into your home and not want to leave, not because there's plenty to eat and drink but because they feel a sense of spiritual and emotional healing around you and your household. When you're enriched your husband and children too will be enriched. You cannot give what you don't have so you first need to fill your heart with love, mercy, and compassion; pray and confess it into your life and with time it becomes a spring that flows effortlessly from you to others.