Woman, Be Wise And Build Your Home (Part 3)

"The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands." Prov.14:1.

As we conclude on this article, the Lord will open your mind and enrich it with His wisdom and make you a home builder.

• Recognising that true love is rooted in God.

God is love, therefore He is important to your love relationship because He is a wonderful example of love, His love is unconditional and He desires that this same love exist between us even as couples. I Cor 13: 4-8 gives us a good description of the God kind of love. As you fan the flame of your romantic love, you also need to grow in God's love. This can be realised by living in gratitude of His awesome  power and grace over your life. Loving God this way helps you strive to develop the values necessary to sustain the love between you and your spouse. The love rooted in God helps you live above hurt and makes it easier for couples to forgive. It never fades with time or diminishes with age. It is the only love that binds you together when every other attributes fail.

• Fulfilling your husbands desires.

A wise woman gauges her husband’s needs and seeks to fulfill his every desire. Men want sex, sex and more sex and satisfying this need is a key factor to a happy home. The understanding that both sexes are wired differently would help to prevent a lot of sex issues in marriages. Men and women are different not better or worse. Sex for the man is the reality check for his passion while for the woman it is love. You may be comfortable with just hearing your husband whisper sweet nothings into your ear but for him he gets his assurance of your love from the act. If you feel used by your husband, discuss it with him let him realise you also have needs when it comes to sexual satisfaction so you can both derive maximum pleasure from your sexual relationship. Most times, its not deliberate on his part he is under tension to ease the pressure from his testosterone. Men don't always want sex for the fun of it, sometimes they use it as a substitute for something else such as attention, companionship, to relief physical stress, to ease pain, loneliness and depression. You need to understand your man and be able to see through him to know when he needs your support and encouragement other than just sex. Also, in satisfying your husband's sexual desires, you need to know his sensitive spots, men too have their own sensitive spots. Know the moves that make him go crazy in bed and be creative, you can never be more righteous than God who created sex, so be ready to explore every activity and style that brings out the best in your man.

• Learning to meet his basic needs

You can become the best thing to happen in the life of your man when your learn to meet his basic needs. These are:

»Companionship

Be your husband's best friend. Spend time with him. Discover his areas of interest and fit them into yours. Discuss things he is passionate about with him, show interest in his hobbies and gradually make him interested in yours too.

»Admiration and Respect.

Make your man your hero. Help him maintain his confidence by reminding him of his capabilities. Value and appreciate his achievements, be proud of him and respect him at all times. Don't look for that perfect man in him, or compare him with your father. He is unique in his own way, recognise what makes him thick and build on that.

»Sexual fulfillment.

Become your husband's best sexual partner. Never leave him daydreaming outside the home. Put him in the mood even before he gets home through some romantic text or bb messages, let him always look forward to an enjoyable moment of love making with you.

»Attraction in his wife.

Every man wants a wife he can be proud of in public so keep yourself attractive. Remain fit and wear what makes him happy with you. Within the house you can put on things that make him go wild, falling in love with you all over again. You also need to possess inner beauty and let the image of Christ reflect through you.

8. Be hard working. Don't be lazy. Be in charge and be the decision maker when it comes to your own position as the woman of the house, don't leave sensitive decisions to the maid. Be involved in your kids' development and academics, ask questions about school and their home work. Support and encourage your husband no matter how little. Let him see the effort you're putting in. There's nothing wrong in you paying the rent, school fees and other roles believed to be your husband's when he is going through challenges, that is why God called you a help meet.

• Let your wisdom reflect in your children.

Depend on God to help you raise godly children who would make you proud. Never compromise the standard out of love and pity. As a matter of fact true love should make you do all that would ensure they turn out great in life including applying the rod when necessary. Teach them about Christ early in life. When we teach them to trust and depend on God it makes our work easier especially when we're not with then, the truth is we can't always be with them. The spirit and the wisdom of God takes position in their life early to guide their every step and decision as they are going to be exposed to divers influences and temptations. Sow godly seed in your children be the right influence over them. Don't teach them to lie, don't involve them in your fight with neighbours. Encourage them to love and share. Prepare their tender heart to receive instructions from God's so they can lead peaceful life tomorrow. (All our children shall be taught by the Lord and great shall be the peace of our children. Isa 54:13). Don't give up when you don't see the result of your effort as it seems the more you try the rebellious they become, keep sowing the good seed your harvest is near.

We are not ignorant of the devices of the enemy, there are instances where women have done all within their power to build successful homes but the devil still tries to rob them of their peace, God is the ultimate builder so depend on God and your home can experience joy and peace. Your home can become that beautiful haven you fantasize about when you begin to seek wisdom and hold it in high esteem.

You may have missed it here or there, or even started on the wrong footing, you're not alone in it, I missed it severally, I thought I knew so much before marriage until I got inside but today God is helping me.

Building the home is a journey and as challenging as it is, it is also enriching. As you build your home, the Lord will build your life and grant you precious reward for your effort in Jesus name.